Please help! I have been seeing a married man for over two years. I know it's wrong, but when I met him he told me he was separated, the divorce was almost final and he was living in an apartment while his wife got the house. Well, that was over two years ago. Since then, there's always been a reason why he can't divorce her.

First, he said the papers were filed, but then he took them back because of his kids. Then he said he filed again and his daughter went to the courthouse to withdraw the filing. Then he said he had to move back in with her because he couldn't pay the money for both his apartment and her house. When I suggested he move in with me, he said for his daughter's sake he couldn't. I really feel like this guy is playing me for a fool.

It just seems like if he really wanted to divorce her, he could have done it in 2 and a half years. You're a guy! Tell me, what should I do? A. Before you read this any further, take a deep breath and repeat after me. I WILL NOT DATE MARRIED MEN! When you sit back and think about it, you've given two years of your mind, body and soul to a married man!

This is a relationship that was doomed from the start. Remember, if a man is separated, it's not the same as being divorced. In fact, he's still technically married. You must leave this relationship right away! And here's a tidbit for you - most married men who cheat don't leave their wives. Why? For one, it's expensive; two, it's a lot of work to untangle assets; and three, because of their kids. -- The Average Guy